The wedding checklist

I have been looking around for a wedding checklist/planner to get us organised, and came across this one by Bride Online which I’ve found rather helpful. It’s a month-by-month countdown to the day with tick boxes to check off. They assume you are planning about a year in advance, by the way, including the engagement.

There’s a more comprehensive list available in Excel format, but you’ll have to join (free) their “Bride to Be Club” to be able to download that.

Does anyone have a better checklist/timeline that we can use?

Anyhoo, this is the 11 months checklist, and what we have or haven’t done so far.

  • Arrange for both families to meet and celebrate if possible. OMG, this didn’t even cross my mind! We live in Melbourne, and our families are in Malaysia and Singapore, so this will have to wait.
  • Purchase a wedding organiser and some magazines for some inspiration. Check, except the “purchasing” a wedding organiser bit – who needs one when you have awesome girlfriends and a great community you can rely on for help? Also, see Oh-so-cute wedding blogs.
  • Plan the engagement party for no more than 3 months from your announcement. Set a date, choose a location and decide on a guest list. Create invitations and send to guests. Record cards and gifts received and send personalised thank you notes.

Stuff I will have to get going on:

  • Decide on a wedding budget
  • Start guest list
  • Determine time frame for your wedding date. Choose a few dates that don’t conflict with other events taking into consideration that some guests may need to travel long distances.
  • Choose a colour scheme. Collect ideas and create an inspiration board including colours, themes and styles.
  • Shortlist your venues for the ceremony
  • Shortlist your venues for the reception
  • Book ceremony venue and record payment in your budget planner
  • Book venue and record payment in your budget planner

About the boy + photobook ideas


The birthday book I made for the boy's 30th last year.

Was reading Cup of Jo about the birthday book she recently created for her dad’s 60th, and it reminded me of the one I created for Heng Khuen’s 30th last year.

I compiled stories he had written through the years on his personal blog, from childhood memories to teenage hangups, highschool crushes, medical school, and reflections on family, friendships and work-life.

I used to put it together, on recommendation of a friend – and I thought the book layouts were great. It was also easy to use, and fairly intuitive for first-timers.

Your friends can preview and browse the book online, and order it if they wish. Pretty cool, huh?

Here are a couple of pages from my labour of love:

Which has gotten me thinking – some sort of a coffee-table book like this may be a great idea for compiling our engagement and wedding photos.

Whatcha reckon, hon?


Oh-so-cute wedding blogs

I’ve taken some baby steps into this whole wedding planning thing, much thanks to “little K”, my twin (not really, though we look incredibly alike and laugh the same way, like very similar things and love to eat and drink the very same things). She’s super fashionable, possesses impeccable taste, is a shopaholic and a voracious reader – all the characteristics you want in someone who’s helping to plan your wedding, yay!

Big K and small k. Do we look alike or what? We've even got Facebook fooled!

I’m liking the direction she’s pointing me towards (i.e. away from all things over-the-top and super cheesy), and here are some of the blogs which I’ve seen and loved:


A Cup of Jo

Joanna Goddard is a magazine writer and blogger in New York, who has been wonderfully inspirational in her attitude towards preparing for her wedding. There was a beautiful sweetness about it all, and so personal, meaningful and pretty. I hope our wedding can have the same spirit about it.

Cup of Jo by Joanna Goddard, came recommended by little K.

Oh, and it’d also be worth mentioning that her wedding was in 2009, and she’s since had a baby boy… which has been the fuel for a lot of her current posts. So all you mummies reading this, you should check her out too!


Polka Dot Bride

Polka Dot Bride has also been a lot of fun. What I like most about it is that it’s an Australian wedding blog, so you can go further than oohing and aaahing about everything and actually look up stockists and services that are near you (though the blog does feature weddings from stateside and elsewhere from time to time as well).

Polka Dot Bride. Super love this one where the couple converted a barn into their reception venue. And how simple and unfussy was her dress?

Also like the fact that the brides and grooms featured aren’t the cookie cutter straight off the runway stick-thin and perfectly chiselled model type. They have so much personality, like this Queensland wedding where the bride drives down the aisle in a Vespa.

It’s a great reminder that the aisle’s not a runway and women don’t have to be obsessed about being perfect. As a friend once remarked some years back when she prepared for her wedding – you should wear the dress and not let the dress wear you.

There’s also a section for DIY wedding projects. Cute.


The Crafty DIY Bride

More DIY ideas from Mel, the Crafty DIY Bride. There are plenty of projects to try out… some projects even come with free printable templates.

Fun ones I’ve come across include save the date tags, wedding pinatas, recipes for baking your own wedding cake, and umm, even up-do’s for your hair.

The Crafty DIY Bride teaches you the art of homemade.


Design Sponge

Okay, so Design Sponge isn’t a wedding website strictly, but who says inspiration needs to come from a single source?

I was actually really blown away by this one post in particular – where the bride actually picked up her dress for $5 dollars (?!?!) at a recycling shop where you paid for your buys by weight.

Though not a wedding website strictly, there are plenty of cool design ideas from Design Sponge.


So there, this is as much “research” I’ve done since getting engaged. We haven’t set a date yet, but planning to hold it sometime early next year. I hope that’s enough time for us to sort everything out. Meanwhile, if there are websites or resources etc that you know, please send them my way, either by email, Facebook, Twitter, or simply in the comments section below!

With love, K

Introducing the husband-to-be







That’s right folks, this is my husband-to-be looking like an excited boy at Christmas breaking into his box of chocolates.



Fairytale weddings and fears

I know some girls dream about a fairytale wedding and begin collecting ideas and looking for inspiration long before they get hitched.

I suppose I’ve never really given much thought to it having grown up hearing stories about the realities of marriage, the pain of infidelity, people who feel they have chosen their partners poorly and end up co-existing in a loveless marriage. One of my greatest fears used to be the thought of waking up 10 years after being married and looking at the man lying next to me, and thinking, “What have I done?”

The past more than two years with Heng Khuen has been an exercise in confronting my fears – perceived or otherwise – and learning to trust in his character, words and action. It’s also been a delightful journey in discovering God’s sovereignty over my life. Time and time again, I have been surprised by joy, and He has certainly done exceedingly abundantly over and above what I could have asked for or imagined.

Who can say how our lives are going to turn out? For better or for worse, in sickness or in health, I can only trust that His grace shall be sufficient for me and that His strength will be made perfect in my weakness. I will be able to deal with whatever comes my way when it comes my way. No point worrying about the what-ifs now.

All this reflecting has also brought me back to thinking about how Heng Khuen and I first met, which was all rather funny. The post, A Letter in Love was titled after one of my favourite books of all times, Alain de Botton’s Essays in Love, which Heng Khuen bought me for my birthday in 2009.